Partnering and parenting expectations in adoptive couples

This paper describes research investigating couples who undertook the procedure of becoming adoptive parents, studying the partners' representations of relationships in the context of their psychological sense of loss owing to infertility. The sample consisted of 100 subjects (50 couples) who took part in an assessment process related to adoption within the Social Services structures. The subjects had the following features in common: they were between 35 and 45 years of age; the duration of their marriages was between 7 and 10 years; none had biological or previously adopted children. The instruments used were a Psycho-Social Questionnaire, the Adult Attachment Interview (Main & Goldwin, 1998) and the Family Life Space (Gozzoli & Tamanza, 1998). The results showed a majority of couples classified by the AAI as 'Secure', and a lack of couples formed by partners both classified as 'Insecure'. Moreover, we found a prevalence of couples who are classified by the FLS instrument as failing in 'space government' (Fragmentation and Overfilling = 68%). These results suggest that adoptive couples show a strong appreciation of affect and attachment needs, but are still deeply in crisis in the personal and family relationship sectors of their lives. © British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy.